a thought

I just noticed when cleaning out my email that I had over a dozen emails sent to me on my one and two year anniversaries. Each note I loved and appreciated and they were all sent with the best intent and I love every single person who wrote me and I know they did not notice or this did not occur to them but let me point some things out.

read the Words carefully with me:

"Congratulations on being married and staying married."

First let's look at this part "on being" married = is it not just as GREAT to not be married?

AND now

let's look at this part

"on staying married"

what is wrong with not staying married? what if you are NOT in a safe nor healthy relationship? I think congratulations should be sent to people who don't stay married too.

So what I learned from this is it may be better to send Anniversary cards that just say:

"Congratulations on your anniversary!"

AND How come some people think people who are not married are missing out on something or that sometimes married people act like their life is somehow better than a non married persons? I remember family members saying to me over the years= "I wish you would find someone get married. and blah blah"...like I finally would be happy if I got married?! I am NOT AT ALL against getting married or staying married but hey if it happens it happens but if it doesn't it doesn't. Being married is not the end all and be all...in fact it's the end of a lot of things for some people and the beginning of a lot of good things for other people. AND the staying married part....that almost implies ...hey I know it really hard but hats of to you to sticking in there.

I really feel strongly that if you are not happy and more importantly abused and you worry about your safety of you and or your children, it is perfectly OK to get a divorce- in fact in Judism it's a Mitvah to get a divorce if you are in an abusive relationship. AND we congratulate marriages why not congratulate the divorces? ( as it certainly takes much more strength (and costs more money LOL) to divorce than to get married.)

Hey!- Let's give respect to people who decide they aren't marrying. And let's give respect to those who want to marry but just haven't found someonoe they want to marry. AND hats off to those who had the courage to leave when things were abusive and dangerous even know they were scared they would have no where to live, no money to live on, no place to shelther their children etc etc...

TO SUMMARIZE = being married is not better than not being married= ONE is not better than the other...they are the same. Let's just all try to be happy.

so next time you wish someone Happy Anniversay...you could just say Happy Anniversary!!!

....and if your friends get a divorce don't look down on them, look up to God (if you believe in God ) and ask for strength for your friend(s) as divorce is not easy and not fun. And then when or if they are single...PLEASE, you don't need to say= don't worry the right one come along ( not that this is a mean thing to say especially if it's what they desire and when people say that they mean well).... MAYBE consider saying= I pray (or hope) you are getting happier with each passing day and I love you and respect you. You can even add in= I admire the courage you showed by leaving that unhealthy relationship and I hope your every dream comes true and you reach all your goals. And know I am by your side for the whole journey no matter what (uless you decide to become a Star Trekky, then enjoy your new friends and see you in the big HOUSE) JUST KIDDING!

Francis Joseph Danca

DANCA, Francis Joseph Age 92, Oct 30, in Boxford, formerly of Lauderdale Lakes, FL and Malden. Beloved husband of 60 years of the late Ada (Cuzzi). Adored by his seven daughters, Andrea DeMeo and her husband Frederick of Boxford, Dorothy Harkins and her husband Rea of D.R., Mary Danca and her husband Michael Golden of OR, Frances Danca, deceased, Norma D'Anca and her husband David Reed of VT, Carolyn D'Anca and her partner William Gaspar of Chicago, Linda D'Anca of Malaysia. Grandfather of eight and great grandfather of three. Brother of Louise Gobbeo of TX and the late Salvatore, Joseph, Marion Volpe, Virginia DiSanto. Founder of Danca Insurance Agency in Malden and owner until his retirement to Florida. Also survived by many loving relative and friends in MA and FL. WWII Navy Veteran, served on the USS Harry Lee and USS Calvert. A memorial Mass will be held on November 8 at 10AM at St. Rose of Lima Church, Park St. Topsfield. Memorials in Francis's name can be made to Catholic Relief Fund 228 W. Lexington St. Baltimore MD 21201 or Refugee Immigration Ministry, 142 Pleasant Street, Malden MA 02148, Assisting the family is the Mackey Funeral Home of DANVERS 978 774 0033

Gonnella is published in NC about family sports madness

My Aunt Jeannine wrote the below article and it was published in the Raleigh, NC paper...her husband is my Uncle Tony Gonnella(he is not the one who died recently that I mentioned in my last blog). My family is truely insane with the sports thing....especially the Red Sox and the Boston Celtics. I had to go to my parents house so they could win the world series last time, apparently I brought good luck. Here's the article republished with assumed permission.

Red Sox fever sneaks up on fan's wife

I'm not a sports fan, but my husband is. How a whole family can be so superstitious that they call each other and state how they all have to continue to sit the same way they sat at the winning game is beyond words.

My husband owns a ton of Red Sox items -- he even bought a red truck because of his devotion to his team. I, myself, am guilty of having contributed to his madness by getting him a personalized plate with the Red Sox.

I remember when the movie "Fever Pitch" came out; I related. I related because to me, it was "just a game." Boy, was that a wrong statement!

When the Red Sox won the World Series, I got caught up in the emotion of it all after seeing and hearing all the stories of the generations that have been so devoted to their team, including my husband's mother, who passed many years ago.

"This one's for you, Ma" is all I heard, not just from my husband's family, but from many devoted fans.

I've learned to truly admire these Bostonians for the devotion they have toward their teams, and I admire my husband for striking up a conversation to anyone who shows any sign of sharing the same team.

So, to all those people who have a hat with a "B" or some sign on their car, if you see a man waving to you, it's possibly my devoted husband just cheering on his team.

--Jeannine Gonnella, Apex

dance like it's your last

my Uncle Tony died early this morning and I am sad about it. I went dancing tonight anyway. Last time I saw Uncle Tony we danced together-i figure he must of had an appreciation for dance and I should go because I am alive....I believe it was a waltz I got to do with Uncle Tony last I saw him....luck for me I have it on video so I can watch it tomorrow. He stayed at my house once in Rockville and even know I gave him the master bedroom he was miserable.....he hated my dog, my tv and and didn't even like my brand of peanut butter. But we played cards and had fun anyway. Anyway, my poor Aunt Ginny is by herself now and that is almost as sad as Uncle Tony dying. When I alked to Uncle Tony last he said he felt no pain even know he had to go to dialysis three times a week and couldn't hardly breath with a failing heart. He didn't complain once to me. He said he was going to be alright....and I am sure he is right.

Notti Bianchi in Washington DC- Worlds Smallest Dinner

my Dad and I are hanging out at the GWU Inn tonight and decided to head to Notti Bianche for a nice Italian Dinner. I have to say it was very funny watching my Dad get served the worlds smallest dinner . You can order half orders at this resturant and my Dad ordered a half order of ravioli....now imagine this...5 really SMALL flat white ravioli on a huge deep plate with a little little bit of some cream sause. (and it was funny that he wasn't sure what was inside--apparently it wasn't meat and it was brown---dirt? dunno? I just ordered a sald and it turned out to be like 10 green beans and a beat and some baby tomatoes....at least we thought, we had room for desert!...but we saw the next table get their cheesecake and it was like 1"x1" x1" in size and we decided to head for the candy machine. Notti Bianchi means "white nights" in Italian---we think they should change it to Notti Leggero.

at least last night we had a great dinner in Harrionsburg at Joshua Wiltons---which is located in a house built in 1880's (thinks).

the hotel rooms here are pretty NICE at the GWU INN- reccomend!

dance fever with no tylenol

this week meetings and dancing in DC(sorry not time to visit my non dancing friends :( ), traveling to Harrisonburg, Va. and I am coming home Sunday night to pick up my husband and a suitcase I have already pre-packed for Los Angeles- we leave Monday morning at 5 AM. I am so happy to be getting out of "greensboring- the city that ???". I can't wait to see people there and to dance at Lindy Groove in LA and everywhere else and gonna also going to be at the US Open Swing Dance Championships- it's the best way to spend THanksgiving in my opinion..it's a weird event in some ways but i love it. plus- it will mark the aniversary of when I met Rayned, Donna and Jane!!!- and many others- R, D and J they let me stay in there room like 5 years or so ago...they didn't even know me and took me in because the hotel(which is the biggest hotel of all time-longest hallways in the world- takes 20 minutes to find your room everytime) was so packed. I slept on the floor in a sleeping bag and it was one of the funniest weekends ever....wow, that was when I met valerie from cleveland...I remember she was teaching me how to know when a sugarpush was happening in Lindy Hop...hahahahaha. that is so funny can't believe it. I just couln't understand how anyone could feel that was being led...and now it's the thing I lead when I can't think of anything else(if I am leading).

ok so, I am going to be staying at Long Beach until the open..then in Anaheim for the Open and then in Long Beach...---

well I just had to share my excitement. I hope to see you ALL at the Open or at least out real soon(if you don't dance).

best video since laughing baby clip

best video since laughing baby:

http://video.yahoo.com/video/play?vid=1323099&fr=yvmtf

thank you holly for passing this on to me.

Cirque du Soleil Saltimbanco

dean and I went to cirque du soleil tonight-the show was awesome- WOW, perfect mix of music and acrobatics on a intimate stage - there are two more shows tomorrow in Greensboring and any seat is awesome...plus they will move you up since there is a poor show up- you should GO because if you all don't go we will be lucky if they ever want to come back here again cuz our attendance is lame. I think this show was even better than last year. wow! and the nice thing is that you can leave for a show at 7 PM and be home in bed by 10:30 - perfect for my attention span and hurting body. Dr. R gave me a nerve block in C5 C6 area yesturday...I think it is starting to kick in...full effect to be at the end of 2 weeks...i hope to go dance in dc then- fingers crossed.

dogdogstern.com

OMG, my cat has lost his little mind. He's put up his own website:
http://www.dogdogstern.com

he must of done that between sleeping and sleeping.

did you know Warren Buffet?

There was a one-hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity. Here are some very interesting aspects of his life:

1. He bought his first share of stock at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!

2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.

3. He still lives in the same, small 3-bedroom house in midtown Omaha that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence.

4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him.

5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet company.

6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis. He has given his CEO's only two rules. Rule number 1: Do not lose any of your shareholder's money. Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.

7. He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His pastime after he gets home is to make himself some popcorn and watch television.

8. Bill Gates, the world's richest man, met him for the first time only 5 years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with Warren Buffet. So, he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffet.

9. Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk.

His advice to young people: 'Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself and remember:

A. Money doesn't create man, but it is the man who created money.

B. Live your life as simple as you are.

C. Don't do what others say. Just listen to them, but do what makes you feel good.

D. Don't go on brand name. Wear those things in which you feel comfortable.

E. Don't waste your money on unnecessary things. Spend on those who really are in need.

F. After all, it's your life. Why give others the chance to rule your life?

attitude

cool story about attitude:
There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. 'Well,' she said, 'I think I'll braid my hair today?' So she did and she had a wonderful day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. 'H-M-M,' she said, 'I think I'll part my hair down the middle today?' So she did and she had a grand day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head.'Well,' she said, 'today I'm going to wear my hair in a pony tail.' So she did and she had a fun, fun day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head. 'YEA!' she exclaimed, "'I don't have to fix my hair today!'

Attitude is everything. Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain.

non-medical and medical volunteers needed

North Carolina's emergency medical services are looking for medical and non-medical volunteers to draw from in the event of a disaster. Any North Carolina resident who is willing to volunteer to be deployed locally, regionally, statewide, and/or federally in the event of a disaster is encouraged to register through an Internet-based registry called SERVNC, announced Tuesday by the N.C. Office of Emergency Medical Services. The registration process is simple and takes no more than 15 minutes. Those interested should go to www.servnc.org on the Internet.

Be careful though, there are some serioulsy deranged and delusional EMS personel in this state. I will be dealing with one of them in the most brillant way. I just got the best idea EVER. If you don't know what part of hell I am from yet....you will soon. hahaha LOL

august 1, 2007 birthday

birthday cake in the garage(we were afraid of fire in the house).
there may be a lot of candles but I still have the lungs of a five year old.

audionet, I always wanted to kiss an airbag

check it out:
http://podcasts.cnn.net/cnn/services/podcasting/showandtell/video/2007/07/23/show.and.tell.autonet.cnn.m4v

This is going to be great when someone else is driving me around (in my bad ass lincoln stretch), other than that, we are all going to die.

this is worse than a sixpack in the car...imagine this; IM + email + mapquest + movies.

can't you just hear it now? "officer, I only had two windows open and it was about an hour ago"

RESCUE ME- tv show of the year

I don't know if this is because of my EMT training or what but I LOVE the show RESCUE ME. It's brilliant on so many levels. Check it out....it's amazingly entertaining and full of twists.